In a very interesting panel, a man who was once an atheist, but has now learned about the gospel, asks an interesting question: How can I share the gospel with my family who is an atheist? Especially the man had conversations with his sister about evidences of the existence of God and he wanted to know how to deal with these things.
I love the way Paul Washer begins his answer by saying that no answer about science or culture will convert these people to Christ, only the Gospel will.
If she has an honest question, like, what about evolution? You can answer that question, but not thinking that by answering all her questions, you’re going to bring her to Christ. It is the power of the gospel. It is always the power of the gospel. And I love what Spurgeon and others have said. You know, with the Scriptures, you don’t have to defend the Scriptures any more than you have to defend a lion and let him out of the cage. he’ll defend himself.
He also spoke about how important it is not to appear fanatic in front of an atheist or an unbeliever, saying that if they don’t want to hear the message of salvation, we should just stop and not bother them. He gave the example of a person that he had next to him on a plane, he asked permission to share the Gospel with him, that man said no, to which Washer continued with the previous conversation as normal.
In the end, that man apologized for the way he treated him, and this leads us to think that that man did not leave thinking that “evangelicals” are fanatics, and we must be very careful with this, knowing how far we can preach to an unbeliever.
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This reflection teaches us an important principle when sharing the message of Christ with those who do not believe: our role is not to win arguments, but to faithfully present the truth of the gospel. Many believers feel pressured to have answers for every philosophical, scientific, or historical objection, thinking that this will open the door to conversion. However, as Paul Washer points out, salvation does not come through intellectual persuasion, but through the work of God in the heart of a person.
When we speak with atheists or skeptics, especially when they are part of our own family, emotions and personal history can complicate conversations. Family discussions often carry wounds, pride, and strong opinions, which is why wisdom and humility are essential. Instead of turning every meeting into a debate, we should seek to live out the gospel through patience, kindness, and consistency in our daily conduct.
Answering questions about faith is not wrong. On the contrary, honest questions deserve honest answers. Yet we must understand our limitations. No explanation, no matter how well-structured, can replace the transforming power of the Holy Spirit. Our responsibility is to point people to Christ, trusting that God will use His Word in His perfect time.
Another valuable lesson from this message is the importance of respecting boundaries. Insisting when someone has clearly expressed disinterest can harden hearts instead of softening them. By showing respect and self-control, we demonstrate that the gospel we proclaim produces humility and love, not arrogance or hostility. This kind of attitude often leaves a lasting impression, even when the message is initially rejected.
The example of the conversation on the plane reminds us that evangelism is not about forcing words, but about being available. Sometimes the most powerful testimony is how we respond to rejection. Calmness, respect, and genuine interest in others can open doors later that aggressive preaching might close permanently.
Sharing the gospel with atheists requires prayer, discernment, and trust in God’s sovereignty. We plant the seed, we water it with love, but it is God who gives the growth. Our task is to remain faithful, to speak truth with grace, and to rest in the assurance that the gospel itself is sufficient to accomplish God’s purpose.