When we read the Gospels we realize that the message of Jesus was hard, and today we can not try to dilute that message because what Christ preached were things that made us understand that our kingdom is not from this world, that We need to deny ourselves and we would suffer because of the gospel.
The message of Christ was so explosive that it caused a certain division and today it continues doing it. We must understand something, every message, every exposition that affects the system of this world will cause division, and the message of Jesus pointed against the system of the scribes and Pharisees, which was a corrupt system, wanting to show a certain hardness on the outside, but inside they were empty.
37 He that loveth father or mother more than me is not worthy of me: and he that loveth son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me.
38 And he that taketh not his cross, and followeth after me, is not worthy of me.
39 He that findeth his life shall lose it: and he that loseth his life for my sake shall find it.
In short, Jesus is saying: “I must be the center of every man and woman who has decided to be a Christian”. This is what the gospel is about, Jesus, not about us, but about Him.
Jesus challenges us to live a consecrated life for God, and that life different from others will sometimes cause division, that is why Jesus Himself said that people would abhor us and we should be prepared for it, because now we belong to Him and not to us.