How to love yourself according to the Bible

We can put our eyes in self-help phrases like “love yourself”, but too many Christians are able to love their neighbors and forgive all their sins, yet they do not feel able to apply the same mercy and grace to themselves. This is bad. Here are four things you need to do if you are not having mercy on yourself.

Many times we do not realize how harmful it is to live under constant self-condemnation. We speak of grace, we preach forgiveness, and we encourage others to rest in God’s mercy, but deep down we carry weights that God never asked us to carry. This internal struggle leads many believers to spiritual exhaustion, insecurity, and a distorted view of God’s character. If we do not learn to see ourselves as God sees us, we end up creating obstacles to our own spiritual growth. That is why it is so important to reflect on these principles and allow the Holy Spirit to renew our understanding.

1. Knowing how much God loves you

The truth is that we can not love ourselves, but we can love ourselves in Christ, rejoicing in all that He has done for us on the cross and the fact that He now lives in us. God loved you so much, clothed you in Christ and looks at you as his saved, redeemed, made clean, new and complete child. Do not focus on yourself, but on Christ IN YOU.

Understanding God’s love is the foundation for healing the way we see ourselves. When we recognize that our identity is not based on our mistakes, our past, or our weaknesses, but on the redeeming work of Christ, our perception begins to change. God’s love is not fragile, limited, or conditional; it is a love that transforms and restores. The more we meditate on that truth, the more freedom we experience in our daily walk.

2. Know what the Word of God says about you

Cut the negative thoughts with the inspiring and positive Word of God about you. Start the day with a devotional and write down the lists of Bible verses that reinforce God’s love for you. Download your lists every time you feel negative thoughts drag you and talk about you.

Our thoughts shape our emotions and actions. If we allow lies to dominate our minds, we will live discouraged, insecure, and defeated. But when we intentionally confront negativity with Scripture, our hearts begin to realign with God’s truth. The Bible repeatedly reminds us that we are chosen, forgiven, loved, and strengthened by God. Having these truths present every day will help you resist the attacks of doubt and self-reproach.

3. Memorize what the Word of God says about you

It is not enough to read the Word of God; We have to have in our hearts, minds and, what is more important: We need to be able to bring back with truth the lies of the devil and the Word of God is our sword when our thoughts are being afflicted. So get a list of biblical verses and memorize one each day.

Memorization strengthens spiritual confidence. When a believer carries Scripture inside, he or she is never unarmed. In moments of temptation, sadness, or confusion, the Holy Spirit brings to memory exactly what is needed. This habit not only renews the mind, but also builds a deeper connection with God, who speaks through His Word.

4. Love others

So much negativity about ourselves disappears when we focus on the needs of others over our own needs. Ask God to show you who needs your help or your love today and be intentional about serving you where necessary. If we are making God and others happy, we will naturally feel good about ourselves.

Something extraordinary happens when we choose to love and serve others: our internal burdens lighten. Serving elevates our perspective and reminds us that life is more meaningful when we give rather than when we only look at ourselves. God uses acts of love to heal the heart of the giver, not just the receiver. When we walk in obedience to this principle, we begin to experience joy, peace, and purpose—three things that help silence self-criticism and strengthen spiritual identity.

Practicing these four principles consistently will help you grow in grace and learn to see yourself through the eyes of the One who created you, redeemed you, and loves you with eternal love.