Men, love your wives, because the Lord poured out His love so that we too may demonstrate that great and wonderful love.
God takes pleasure in this beautiful truth: sharing that love with the wife He has given you, valuing her according to everything the Lord has commanded. Being loving, kind, stable, and praying every day to the Lord that He would cover her and keep her wherever she may be.
We must obey God, because if we listen to the voice of the Lord, then we will treat our wives with all the respect they deserve.
Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it,
Ephesians 5:25
In the previous verse, the apostle Paul was clearly giving a command. He spoke of the love of Christ, emphasizing that the Lord’s love is great, and for this very reason he instructed every man to love his wife in the same way Christ loves the church—with an infinite and selfless love.
From verse 21 of chapter 5 in Paul’s letter to the Ephesians, we can see what the apostle taught every believer when he said: “Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God.” When there is fear of God, we carry His Word in our hearts and we act with genuine love.
The apostle speaks to everyone, whether man or woman, calling all of us to live in submission through love and reverence for the Lord. When we live this way, we will never lack His love and mercy, because God has everything good prepared for us, and He loves us deeply.
Final Words
Marriage is not merely a human contract, but a spiritual covenant in which God Himself is a witness. When a man loves his wife as Christ loved the church, he reflects in his home the greatness of the Gospel. Christ did not love the church superficially; He gave Himself, laid down His life, endured humiliation, and carried our sins on the cross. This is the model Paul places before husbands: a sacrificial, constant, and grace-filled love.
Loving one’s wife also means valuing her in everyday life: through patience, tenderness, faithfulness, words that build up, and protection that honors God. It is not a conditional love that depends on mood or circumstances, but a steadfast love that reflects the very nature of Christ within the home. A husband who loves in this way blesses not only his wife, but also his children and the generations that will come after him.
Furthermore, when a home is lived under the fear of God, selfishness is broken and unity is learned. A husband’s love for his wife is not a passing feeling, but a testimony of God’s work in his life. In this way, every act of respect, every word of encouragement, and every decision guided by the Word strengthens the marriage relationship and glorifies the Lord.
The calling, then, is clear: men, do not neglect the heart of the woman God has entrusted to you. Pray for her, support her in moments of weakness, stand firm together in faith, and never forget that when you love in this manner, you are fulfilling one of the most beautiful and sacred commandments. The love with which Christ loved the church is the same love that must be reflected in every Christian home.
Let us ask the Lord to help us love with a pure and sincere love, to free us from selfishness, and to teach us to give without expecting anything in return. If Christ gave Himself for us even unto death, how can we not learn to give our life, time, and effort in love toward our wives? Let us always remember: a marriage founded on Christ will be a living testimony of the Gospel, a beacon of light in the midst of this world, and a blessing that transcends future generations.